Unexpected Changes

From the time we began this adoption journey, we were warned to remain flexible and expect the unexpected.  We did not realize at the time exactly what this would mean.  It has been our desire and goal to follow wherever The Lord leads.  A month or so ago, I was given a picture in my mind of Jesus walking a short distance ahead of me, stretching His right arm back, reaching for my hand.  I took my left hand and placed it in His.  We were connected and I knew that as long as I didn’t let go, I would go wherever He would lead me and I would be safe.  He is my guide and my protector.

Our plan and desire has been to adopt Soliel, Anastasia, Delta, and Brandi.  We even considered adding a fifth girl to the plan, a young lady who recently turned 16 and could only be adopted by someone whose paperwork had already been submitted in country.  However, we recently learned that adopting these 5 would mean three different appointments, each a week apart, three different trips to the same orphanage (a 10-hour train ride each way), and three different court dates.  The additional time and expense necessary to do this made the adoption of these particular girls an impossibility for us.  We had expected some measure of difficulty with this adoption, but not this.  We had been warned that sometimes people end up with different children than they intended, but we didn’t really think this would be our case.  What should we do now?  We had to remind ourselves that the goal was to adopt children.  We learned that sibling groups are very difficult to place because most people do not get USCIS approval for 4-5 children.  In the end, we chose to pursue the adoption of a sibling group of 3 girls and 1 boy.  We are sad that the girls we originally intended to adopt are again waiting for families, but we are praying that God will soon rectify that situation.  He has not forgotten them, and we are not likely to forget them either.  Although we were totally surprised by this turn of events, we have to believe that God is leading.  We only want what He wants.  We must go where He leads.

All of you that helped and prayed so desperately for Soliel, Anastasia, Delta, and Brandi, please continue to pray.  Please, also give thanks that these four siblings will have a family and will not need to be separated from each other.  At some point I will have the freedom to share with you who they are.  Thank you for praying for us, too.  It has been an emotional time.


3 thoughts on “Unexpected Changes

  1. “In their hearts humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps.” Prov. 16:9. Paul had planned to go on more missionary journeys, but ended up in prison. While there, he wrote Ephesians, Philippians, Colossians, and Philemon. God’s plans are better than ours.

    I had my own adoption related heartbreak four years ago. A little 4 year old girl, Milana, struck me deeply. I could not then and still cannot understand why God struck me so deeply in my heart for this child. It gradually became apparent that not only could we not adopt her … we could not adopt at all, not then, not now, maybe later. It sill makes me cry. Sorry for being a weak man, but it still upsets me. Reportedly, she was adopted by a family in her own country and I trust His plan was better for everyone, than mine.

    God used that experience to change the way I feel about adoption, Down Syndrome, HIV and special needs. He forged me into a prayer warrior and an ardent advocate for fatherless kids here and abroad. I pray that one day, I will see Milana in Heaven. Until then, I pray for her, for you, for orphans, for anyone seeking to adopt and I stand shoulder to shoulder with other people in prayer for “the least of these”

    Trust God. Pray often, look for grace for the moment. You are not alone.

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