Having never gone through the adoption process before now, we had no clue what to expect. Would it go smoothly? Would it be stressful? Would it be time-consuming? Would we feel overwhelmed and wonder why in the world we ever thought of doing this? After three months of actually being in the process, I am convinced that attitude has much to do with how we perceive it. We have tried to keep the attitude that God is orchestrating this. If He wants it to happen, it will happen. If He doesn’t, then we don’t want it either. We want only to be where He wants us, at the time He wants us there. This is a very freeing attitude because it means that God is in control and we don’t have to make things happen. If there are delays, they are there for a purpose. If there are changes, they are for our good. So, I can honestly say that this whole process has been relatively stress-free. Now let me assure you that this doesn’t mean it hasn’t required a good amount of effort on our part or that we haven’t gotten brain tired at times. But, we haven’t ever felt like giving up and throwing in the towel.
We have a superb team from Reece’s Rainbow who is walking us through each step. I would never want to do this without them. They have all the documents and they check and recheck them as we fill them out. They are quick to respond to our questions and they intercede for us whenever necessary. The goal is that when the documents arrive in the country, none of them will have the chance of being rejected because they will all be perfect.
The past two weeks were especially busy with signing forms and having them notarized. I never realized how important it was to do everything perfectly. We must use blue ink and not black. There must be no cross-outs, white-outs, double stamps, smeared stamps, overlapping stamps, wrong dates—and the list goes on. I don’t know about you, but as soon as I know that I can’t make a mistake on this form or I have to do it over, and doing it over involves other people, that’s about the time my hand becomes shaky and I mess up. We had our share of mess-ups these past two weeks. Thankfully, they were all caught and amended. There are checks and rechecks to make sure. First I scan and email the forms to Reece’s Rainbow. If there are mistakes, I fix them and rescan them to RR. Then RR sends them to the country where they are checked. If there are mistakes, word comes back that the form needs to be redone. There is great relief when the forms are approved!
The finished draft of the home study was completed on Thursday, but sadly, there were a few mistakes in it that wouldn’t pass inspection. We were so hoping to have all the forms in hand to take to Harrisburg on Monday to receive apostilles. (An apostille is a special stamp that certifies to foreign countries that the notaries are legitimate.) I was disappointed at the news that the home study would need to be amended, but I reminded myself that there are no delays in God’s timing. God will work out His plan, and I can rest in that.
Now I am finally at the point of this post. I hope you are still with me. If you have not read the “Why Adoption?” page, I invite you to take a few minutes to do that before continuing to read this post because you’ll need the background to fully grasp the significance of what I am about to say.
Yesterday morning I was feeling mentally tired with all the effort put into the adoption the past couple of weeks. I asked my daughters if they could take charge of school and just give me a few minutes alone with God to hear from Him and thus, refocus my thoughts. I sat on the floor at the end of my bed, got out my journal, and asked God to meet me and speak to me. My heart was open to listening. I pulled out Daily Light on the Daily Path, a devotional book that combines portions of Scripture based around a theme. Turning to September 20, I read the following words:
“Poor, yet making many rich.—Ye know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that, though he was rich, yet for your sakes he became poor, that ye through his poverty might be rich.—Of his fullness have all we received, and grace for grace.—My God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.—God is able to make all grace abound toward you; that ye, always having all sufficiency in all things, may abound to every good work.…We have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us.”
Thank you, Jesus, for the loving reminder that you are in this, that you care, and that you will bring it all to fruition.